Jealousy

We have all felt jealous at one point or another, and most likely, we have all had to deal with the jealousy of other people, too.

As humans, it is in our nature to get jealous when we feel that someone else has something we feel should be ours.  Instead of recognizing the emotion that makes us feel hurt, we lash out.  Often times, jealousy stems from fear- the fear of being unworthy, disliked, or of being disrespected.

So how do we stop ourselves from feeling jealous in the moment?  And how do we combat the jealousy of others when they lash out at us?  It all comes back to being mindful.  When we are mindful of our thoughts and actions, we will have an easier time shifting our focus away from jealousy.

Here are some tips for overcoming your own jealousy:

1)  Recover Personal Power so that you can gain control of your emotions and refrain from reactive behavior.

2)  Shift Your Point of View so that you can step back from the story in your mind. This will give you a gap of time in which to refrain from a jealous or angry reaction and do something else. 

3)  Identify the Core Beliefs that trigger the emotional reaction.  

4)  Identify the Underlying Emotions that you may be feeling.  Are you being driven by fears?  Are you over thinking about the situation because of these fears?

5)  Become Aware that the beliefs in your mind may be over exaggerated, and try to take an objective perspective.  

6)  Develop Control Over Your Attention so you can consciously choose what story plays in your mind and what emotions you feel.

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Here are some tips for how to deal with others who are jealous of you:

1)  Avoid Taking it Personally- Know that when a person is jealous of you, it has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them.  Be confident in yourself.  Don't allow a jealous person to affect your confidence or to create self doubt.  

2)  Ignore the Jealous and Hateful Comments- Although it's hard to do, ignoring mean comments from jealous people tells them you are not going to validate their feelings.  

3)  Address it Head On-  When ignoring someone is not an option, approaching the situation directly may help release the jealous tension.  Have a positive conversation to confront them about their behavior.  

4)  Reduce Your Negative Interactions With the Person-  If you can change your environment or social dynamics it will reduce the jealous person's ability to influence you.  

5)  Set Boundaries-  Set boundaries to distance yourself from the person and their negativity.  Make a mental time limit for how long you will engage with a negative person, and them politely excuse yourself from the conversation.  

6)  Let the Person Know That You Don't Appreciate the Negativity-  While you don't want to be rude and upset the person further, making them aware of how they are making you feel may cause them to change their behavior.  

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Everybody is effected by jealousy, whether it be internal or external; it is human nature.  Being mindful of your thoughts and feelings and the thoughts and feelings of others can help you to overcome the situation.  If you are having problems with your own jealousy, or having trouble handling a situation where others are hurting you out of jealousy contact me at mkr@mariekrusso.com for a free consultation.